Is This Love That I'm Feeling?
I just wanna say I really like your blog. I think the work that you're doing is
special. Anytime someone does something out of the goodness of their heart for the benefit of others, I'm convince that they're doing something special. So I respect and admire that fact. My situation is that I recently met a young lady through an online dating site. I think she's everything that I've wanted in a woman. Truthfully, I'm very picky. That's why I'm still single, I guess. I've got this profile for perfection in my head. She's got to be intelligent, attractive, sense of humor,avant-guarde, most importantly have a community spirit, someone who's genuinely friendly. From what I gather, she meets and sometimes exceeds all these expectations. But........always a but. I just found out that she just recently broke up with her ex. I mean I don't know all the details. But I imagine that means she might not be especially open for a relationship. I'm afraid if I push, she'll just have these walls up because she needs healing. At the same time, I don't know if I should wait. I mean she hasn't really express a very strong interest either. So I'm a bit in limbo. What makes it even worse is that she lives really far? So I'm not sure what to do. What do you think? Should I move on? How do I encourage her to get to know me? I'm a little bit nervous. Am I taking the risk of being a 'rebound'? I don't think I've felt like this since high school. It's kinda weird!
~Joe
Dear Joe:
Only time will tell in this situation. I love the excitement you experience when you first meet someone that you think you could really be with. Often times when we experience that though, we run the risk of being too eager. Especially because she just broke up with her ex and she lives far away, I would say approach this situation with trepidation.
Another thing we have a tendency to do when we really like someone is we put all of our eggs in one basket, banking all of our dating hopes and dreams on that one person. Then if it doesn't work out, the disappointment can be quite the downer. Don't be afraid to keep putting yourself out there and dating other people. You might find a situation that will work better for you in the process.
Whatever happens with your situation, remember that your a catch...that's the mentality you have to have. Don't take it personally if things don't work out with this one. If I've learned anything, it's that when things in life don't work out, it's because something better is waiting for you down the line. Good luck my friend!
~LaLa
special. Anytime someone does something out of the goodness of their heart for the benefit of others, I'm convince that they're doing something special. So I respect and admire that fact. My situation is that I recently met a young lady through an online dating site. I think she's everything that I've wanted in a woman. Truthfully, I'm very picky. That's why I'm still single, I guess. I've got this profile for perfection in my head. She's got to be intelligent, attractive, sense of humor,avant-guarde, most importantly have a community spirit, someone who's genuinely friendly. From what I gather, she meets and sometimes exceeds all these expectations. But........always a but. I just found out that she just recently broke up with her ex. I mean I don't know all the details. But I imagine that means she might not be especially open for a relationship. I'm afraid if I push, she'll just have these walls up because she needs healing. At the same time, I don't know if I should wait. I mean she hasn't really express a very strong interest either. So I'm a bit in limbo. What makes it even worse is that she lives really far? So I'm not sure what to do. What do you think? Should I move on? How do I encourage her to get to know me? I'm a little bit nervous. Am I taking the risk of being a 'rebound'? I don't think I've felt like this since high school. It's kinda weird!
~Joe
Dear Joe:
Only time will tell in this situation. I love the excitement you experience when you first meet someone that you think you could really be with. Often times when we experience that though, we run the risk of being too eager. Especially because she just broke up with her ex and she lives far away, I would say approach this situation with trepidation.
Another thing we have a tendency to do when we really like someone is we put all of our eggs in one basket, banking all of our dating hopes and dreams on that one person. Then if it doesn't work out, the disappointment can be quite the downer. Don't be afraid to keep putting yourself out there and dating other people. You might find a situation that will work better for you in the process.
Whatever happens with your situation, remember that your a catch...that's the mentality you have to have. Don't take it personally if things don't work out with this one. If I've learned anything, it's that when things in life don't work out, it's because something better is waiting for you down the line. Good luck my friend!
~LaLa
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