Taking The Risk
It's been awhile since I last wrote-my sincere apologies. A lot has happened and I didn't feel I would be doing this blog justice if I didn't assess everything first.
I want to start off by saying that in the last two months, I have learned a great deal about what it is to start a relationship. More so, I have learned a lot about what happens when you finally decide to take the risk of getting hurt and offer up your trust.
My ex-boyfriend and I are officially back together. It's definitely a weird feeling-I mean, I went without a relationship for quite sometime and I never thought I'd see the day when I would be in one again. I reluctantly use the title "boyfriend"; I almost wish there was another name that was equally as appropriate but not so juvenile.
I have to say, he has taught me so much. Since we've been seeing each other again, I learned things about myself that I didn't know. I learned that when I am afraid of being vulnerable, I push people away. I learned that my over analyzing often gets in the way of me really enjoying a relationship.
I learned that trust is the hardest thing for me to give of myself, but it is the most important thing you give someone you're in a relationship with. I learned that I have to let go and just hope for the best, instead of being pessimistic in the effort to guard myself from pain.
But the most important thing I learned from all of this is that, sometimes when in the pursuit of love and happiness, YOU HAVE TO TAKE A RISK.
That's right folks. There is no way of getting around it. I was in a situation where I could either A) Pre-emptively break up with him to avoid the risk of heartbreak, or B) Give in and allow the Trust Express to pick me up. Funny thing is, I tried option A...but it didn't work.
At one point, there were some issues I was having with my beau that just started to get under my skin. And though I did not communicate these issues to him, I decided the best thing to do was break up. I wrote him the break up email-honestly, it was the email I always expected to write him because the pessimism deeply rooted inside me was telling me it was never going to work. Later that day I got a phone call from him. He said he thought everything was fine and then I blindside him with this email about how I don't want to be with him anymore. I was committing a cardinal relationship sin: I didn't communicate.
I've done a lot to push him away but what's made this time different from the other time and the other men is that he pushed back. I gave him many chances to walk away from me and he didn't.
So this is ultimately what it comes down to: Maybe our relationship will work this time and maybe it won't (I've considered both options.) But I am never going to know unless I give it a shot. I read a quote in a relationship article that said "Sometimes being smart about love means taking a risk."
To those out there contemplating whether you will sink or swim, I encourage you, take the risk. Regardless of the result, you will come out on top because of what you learn from the experience. Happy dating all!
I want to start off by saying that in the last two months, I have learned a great deal about what it is to start a relationship. More so, I have learned a lot about what happens when you finally decide to take the risk of getting hurt and offer up your trust.
My ex-boyfriend and I are officially back together. It's definitely a weird feeling-I mean, I went without a relationship for quite sometime and I never thought I'd see the day when I would be in one again. I reluctantly use the title "boyfriend"; I almost wish there was another name that was equally as appropriate but not so juvenile.
I have to say, he has taught me so much. Since we've been seeing each other again, I learned things about myself that I didn't know. I learned that when I am afraid of being vulnerable, I push people away. I learned that my over analyzing often gets in the way of me really enjoying a relationship.
I learned that trust is the hardest thing for me to give of myself, but it is the most important thing you give someone you're in a relationship with. I learned that I have to let go and just hope for the best, instead of being pessimistic in the effort to guard myself from pain.
But the most important thing I learned from all of this is that, sometimes when in the pursuit of love and happiness, YOU HAVE TO TAKE A RISK.
That's right folks. There is no way of getting around it. I was in a situation where I could either A) Pre-emptively break up with him to avoid the risk of heartbreak, or B) Give in and allow the Trust Express to pick me up. Funny thing is, I tried option A...but it didn't work.
At one point, there were some issues I was having with my beau that just started to get under my skin. And though I did not communicate these issues to him, I decided the best thing to do was break up. I wrote him the break up email-honestly, it was the email I always expected to write him because the pessimism deeply rooted inside me was telling me it was never going to work. Later that day I got a phone call from him. He said he thought everything was fine and then I blindside him with this email about how I don't want to be with him anymore. I was committing a cardinal relationship sin: I didn't communicate.
I've done a lot to push him away but what's made this time different from the other time and the other men is that he pushed back. I gave him many chances to walk away from me and he didn't.
So this is ultimately what it comes down to: Maybe our relationship will work this time and maybe it won't (I've considered both options.) But I am never going to know unless I give it a shot. I read a quote in a relationship article that said "Sometimes being smart about love means taking a risk."
To those out there contemplating whether you will sink or swim, I encourage you, take the risk. Regardless of the result, you will come out on top because of what you learn from the experience. Happy dating all!
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