And Now, Here's Some Things We Don't Need To Know...
There are some people out there that ascribe to the saying, "Honesty is the best policy." I believe this saying is true....to an extent. Through my recent dating experience (looks like I'm back from my hiatus, thank you, thank you), I have learned that there is such a thing as being too honest. And the situation I was currently in had me jumping up and down on the TMI meter. But somehow I survived and managed to pick up a few tidbits of knowledge along the way. Here are a few things that men should never tell women they have just started dating:
1. The last time I had sex was the same night that we met.
When I asked the guy I was dating (we'll call him Paul) when the last time he had sex was, Paul responded "Last Saturday." It just so happened that the Saturday he was referring to was the same Saturday that we met. Turns out he had slept with a friend of his friend's girlfriend. And how do I know this? Because he told me, basically giving me play-by-play details on how he ended up in the sack with a woman he just met. I think this first tidbit is pretty self explanatory. Women appreciate honesty-but not the same brand of honesty you use with your best guy friends.
2. The only reason I've been interested in women is to f**k them.
This is what was basically said to me verbatim. Now guys, here's something you need to know about women: we're not stupid. We know that men are more likely to have more sexual partners and we also know that men are much more likely to have sex without tying in their emotions. But the fact is, we really don't need to hear about it. Women find self respect and dignity attractive in a man, so if you want to appear to have these qualities, do not divulge this information.
3. I've never had a girlfriend/serious relationship.
This tip is truly dependent on your circumstances but for the most part is universal. Nothing is more attractive to a woman then seeing a man who can commit. Obviously, when a man has a committed relationship/s under his belt, in a woman's eyes, there is the possibility that he is able to have another one. So if the above statement is true, whether you have just never been able to commit to one woman and would like to or you've just never had a girlfriend period, find some way to temporarily avoid the question. Something like "I'll tell you more about it once we start talking more" is a good one because not only are you masking your non-existent relationship history, but your letting her know that you want to continue getting to know her.
I hope my horror stories will help those guys out there who are walking the tight rope between honesty and full disclosure. Remember, it's good to be honest with a woman your dating but you don't have to tell her everything. Even if she says she wants to know everything about you, there are just some things better left unsaid. Happy dating all!
1. The last time I had sex was the same night that we met.
When I asked the guy I was dating (we'll call him Paul) when the last time he had sex was, Paul responded "Last Saturday." It just so happened that the Saturday he was referring to was the same Saturday that we met. Turns out he had slept with a friend of his friend's girlfriend. And how do I know this? Because he told me, basically giving me play-by-play details on how he ended up in the sack with a woman he just met. I think this first tidbit is pretty self explanatory. Women appreciate honesty-but not the same brand of honesty you use with your best guy friends.
2. The only reason I've been interested in women is to f**k them.
This is what was basically said to me verbatim. Now guys, here's something you need to know about women: we're not stupid. We know that men are more likely to have more sexual partners and we also know that men are much more likely to have sex without tying in their emotions. But the fact is, we really don't need to hear about it. Women find self respect and dignity attractive in a man, so if you want to appear to have these qualities, do not divulge this information.
3. I've never had a girlfriend/serious relationship.
This tip is truly dependent on your circumstances but for the most part is universal. Nothing is more attractive to a woman then seeing a man who can commit. Obviously, when a man has a committed relationship/s under his belt, in a woman's eyes, there is the possibility that he is able to have another one. So if the above statement is true, whether you have just never been able to commit to one woman and would like to or you've just never had a girlfriend period, find some way to temporarily avoid the question. Something like "I'll tell you more about it once we start talking more" is a good one because not only are you masking your non-existent relationship history, but your letting her know that you want to continue getting to know her.
I hope my horror stories will help those guys out there who are walking the tight rope between honesty and full disclosure. Remember, it's good to be honest with a woman your dating but you don't have to tell her everything. Even if she says she wants to know everything about you, there are just some things better left unsaid. Happy dating all!
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