I'm Hot For Trainer
Recently, after I realized that I suffered from a serious addiction to McDonald's Sausage McMuffins among other delicious fast foods, I decided to actually start taking care of myself, eat healthy and start working out. I got a membership at my local gym and also signed up for a few personal training sessions (Mostly because I'm kind of a ditz when it comes to knowing how to work the weight lifting machines and I didn't want to make a fool out of myself.)
I figured I would be matched up with the stereotypical, boxy, scary muscled trainer like the ones you see on TV, so I didn't have to worry about being attracted to him (I specified that I wanted a male trainer because I think they push you harder.) Then came D-Day, the day I met my trainer and I was very surprised. He wasn't anything I had envisioned. Now he's not what I would call "thank-you-Jesus fine," but I do find him attractive. I was also intrigued by him because we share a very personal factor in common: we both lost our youngest sister's to serious diseases.
I instantly wanted to know more about him and I've extracted a little bit of information, but I'm not trying to come on too strong. Nothing makes for an awkward situation like hitting on someone you not only have to see regularly, but that you are also paying only to have them reject you. Still from what I've gathered, we have some interesting things in common.
My trainer-crush got me thinking about whether or not trainer's are even allowed to date their clients. After a little research (Surprisingly there were articles available on the subject), I found that there are no laws saying they can't date their clients, but gyms and fitness centers often create their own standards sternly warning against it.
I think I find this interesting because of two factors: 1) Personal training has to do with how our bodies look. Most times, when someone is interested in acquiring a personal trainer, it's because they want to make their bodies more aesthetically pleasing to the eye. A personal trainer has to take note of a person's body, analyze it and examine how it looks in order to best serve the client's needs. Considering this, isn't it just human nature every once in awhile to be attracted to to a client and vice versa? And 2) Most of the time, personal trainers are hot. And I think they kind of have to be...I mean, would you take a personal trainer seriously if he had a beer belly, a five o'clock shadow and appeared to be in desperate need of a shower?
Aside from this, there's the space factor. Trainers have to get in your bubble sometimes in order to properly train you. Now I'm not pro hooking-up-with-your-trainer here, but the majority of the articles I read seemed to completely disregard what I think is simply human nature. It's slightly similar to actors who hook up while on location shooting a movie.
I think the only thing that would concern me is how hooking up with your trainer would change the dynamic of your sessions. The power issue is at play here, because trainers have a sense of authority to their clients and it seems hooking up with them would humanize them in a way or demean that authority. The research that I read states that if a trainer is interested in a client, they should wait until they are not a client anymore to pursue it further. If the trainer/client relationship has already turned romantic, then the trainer needs to transfer the client to another trainer. I think I'm just fascinated by the dynamic of it all, the sensitive nature of something that in everyday life would seem harmless.
As far as my situation goes, I'm going to keep it professional. But if flirting on both parties starts to ensue, I'm not responsible for my actions :).
I figured I would be matched up with the stereotypical, boxy, scary muscled trainer like the ones you see on TV, so I didn't have to worry about being attracted to him (I specified that I wanted a male trainer because I think they push you harder.) Then came D-Day, the day I met my trainer and I was very surprised. He wasn't anything I had envisioned. Now he's not what I would call "thank-you-Jesus fine," but I do find him attractive. I was also intrigued by him because we share a very personal factor in common: we both lost our youngest sister's to serious diseases.
I instantly wanted to know more about him and I've extracted a little bit of information, but I'm not trying to come on too strong. Nothing makes for an awkward situation like hitting on someone you not only have to see regularly, but that you are also paying only to have them reject you. Still from what I've gathered, we have some interesting things in common.
My trainer-crush got me thinking about whether or not trainer's are even allowed to date their clients. After a little research (Surprisingly there were articles available on the subject), I found that there are no laws saying they can't date their clients, but gyms and fitness centers often create their own standards sternly warning against it.
I think I find this interesting because of two factors: 1) Personal training has to do with how our bodies look. Most times, when someone is interested in acquiring a personal trainer, it's because they want to make their bodies more aesthetically pleasing to the eye. A personal trainer has to take note of a person's body, analyze it and examine how it looks in order to best serve the client's needs. Considering this, isn't it just human nature every once in awhile to be attracted to to a client and vice versa? And 2) Most of the time, personal trainers are hot. And I think they kind of have to be...I mean, would you take a personal trainer seriously if he had a beer belly, a five o'clock shadow and appeared to be in desperate need of a shower?
Aside from this, there's the space factor. Trainers have to get in your bubble sometimes in order to properly train you. Now I'm not pro hooking-up-with-your-trainer here, but the majority of the articles I read seemed to completely disregard what I think is simply human nature. It's slightly similar to actors who hook up while on location shooting a movie.
I think the only thing that would concern me is how hooking up with your trainer would change the dynamic of your sessions. The power issue is at play here, because trainers have a sense of authority to their clients and it seems hooking up with them would humanize them in a way or demean that authority. The research that I read states that if a trainer is interested in a client, they should wait until they are not a client anymore to pursue it further. If the trainer/client relationship has already turned romantic, then the trainer needs to transfer the client to another trainer. I think I'm just fascinated by the dynamic of it all, the sensitive nature of something that in everyday life would seem harmless.
As far as my situation goes, I'm going to keep it professional. But if flirting on both parties starts to ensue, I'm not responsible for my actions :).
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