Tis' The Season To Get Married
I don't know if I am the only one that notices this, but it seems like a lot of people are all of the sudden getting married. It seems everywhere I turn, people are getting engaged and rushing to the chapel, or rushing to plan a wedding in record time. I have already been obligated to three weddings this year, one of which I will be the maid of honor.
With all this wedding hubbub, I am forced to ask myself, "What is every one's hurry?" I think what disturbs me more about this trend is it's people my age and younger who are getting into it.
Now before I launch into my pessimistic marriage point of view, I feel I need to issue this disclaimer: I am not opposed to marriage. I think it is such a beautiful thing when two people decide to be together for the rest of their lives. I often think of how I would like my wedding to look and settling into a family someday. The key word in that sentence being "someday."
But the fact of the matter is, I am only 25. I am still growing and learning about myself and I would hate to get married now only to find that I will be completely incompatible in five years with the person I chose to marry. Studies have shown that people who choose to get married in their later twenties and early thirties have better success rates then those who marry younger.
Aside from statistics, I have already seen enough young marriages around me fail to know that I can wait if it means a better shot at success. Not to mention, all of the couples I've seen who have gotten married or are getting married (with the exception of the one wedding where I am the maid of honor) seem to have some ulterior motives besides true love for getting hitched in the first place.
The couple who's wedding I am in is one I consider the perfect example of what a couple getting married should be. The soon-to-be bride and groom have been together for five years, lived together for four and have an adorable 1 7-month-old son. They already own a house; the bride received a bachelor's degree last year and the groom has his own remodeling business. Now with the bride being 23, this is an exception to the rule.
I guess my point and my advice to young couples out there that are thinking about jumping the broom is to really think about why you want to get married right now. If your concerned that marriage is the only way to keep your presumed soul mate in your life, then he/she might not be the right one for you. It's just my belief that getting married for any other reasons besides wanting to love and spend the rest of your life with someone will have regrettable consequences. And I don't know about the rest of the early twenty somethings out there, but the idea of being a divorcee by age 30 completely freaks me out.
Here is a link from the Discovery Health Website debunking some of society's favorite divorce myths: http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/divorce.html
With all this wedding hubbub, I am forced to ask myself, "What is every one's hurry?" I think what disturbs me more about this trend is it's people my age and younger who are getting into it.
Now before I launch into my pessimistic marriage point of view, I feel I need to issue this disclaimer: I am not opposed to marriage. I think it is such a beautiful thing when two people decide to be together for the rest of their lives. I often think of how I would like my wedding to look and settling into a family someday. The key word in that sentence being "someday."
But the fact of the matter is, I am only 25. I am still growing and learning about myself and I would hate to get married now only to find that I will be completely incompatible in five years with the person I chose to marry. Studies have shown that people who choose to get married in their later twenties and early thirties have better success rates then those who marry younger.
Aside from statistics, I have already seen enough young marriages around me fail to know that I can wait if it means a better shot at success. Not to mention, all of the couples I've seen who have gotten married or are getting married (with the exception of the one wedding where I am the maid of honor) seem to have some ulterior motives besides true love for getting hitched in the first place.
The couple who's wedding I am in is one I consider the perfect example of what a couple getting married should be. The soon-to-be bride and groom have been together for five years, lived together for four and have an adorable 1 7-month-old son. They already own a house; the bride received a bachelor's degree last year and the groom has his own remodeling business. Now with the bride being 23, this is an exception to the rule.
I guess my point and my advice to young couples out there that are thinking about jumping the broom is to really think about why you want to get married right now. If your concerned that marriage is the only way to keep your presumed soul mate in your life, then he/she might not be the right one for you. It's just my belief that getting married for any other reasons besides wanting to love and spend the rest of your life with someone will have regrettable consequences. And I don't know about the rest of the early twenty somethings out there, but the idea of being a divorcee by age 30 completely freaks me out.
Here is a link from the Discovery Health Website debunking some of society's favorite divorce myths: http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/divorce.html
1 comments:
I agree, I can't stand couples that get married just to you know what.
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