The Blind Date
There comes a time in every singles life where it becomes apparent that you haven't dated or had a serious relationship in a long time. This usually occurs when someone else points it out to you. And one way someone points it out to you is by suggesting a blind date.
And thus yesterday, that is how I became aware of my chronically single status.
My sister asked me if she could set me up on a blind date with a personal trainer at her gym. It was the first time I ever got the "Let me set you up on a blind date" line. As soon as she asked me, I cringed at the thought. Not just because the idea of subjecting myself to the scrutiny of someone who doesn't even know me sounds like torture, but because I know what being single at my age means now.
I am just weeks away from my 25th birthday. And though I am content being single (it took me awhile to get there), I can tell my family and friends want me to find someone and maybe even settle down a little bit. My three sisters are pretty much all dating or in a relationship with someone, even my parents have moved on to new relationships. And I am still single.
I think this troubles them the same way that it used to get to me. But before 2008 ended, I cleaned all of the skeletons of my past out of my closet and for the first time in years, I felt super comfortable being single. Now it's to the point where I prefer it. But I think it hurts me to see my family hurt for me because I'm alone.
I just wonder, is there a certain age when people expect you to settle down with someone? And why does it seem so weird when someone wants to focus on their goals, like work and school, instead of focusing on a romantic partner? And how much longer are people going to try and set me up on blind dates?
I figure when the right person comes along, it just happens, that's why I don't sweat it anymore. So I guess I just have to be prepared for more offers for blind dates. Then again, I do love a good personal trainer.....to be continued :)....
And thus yesterday, that is how I became aware of my chronically single status.
My sister asked me if she could set me up on a blind date with a personal trainer at her gym. It was the first time I ever got the "Let me set you up on a blind date" line. As soon as she asked me, I cringed at the thought. Not just because the idea of subjecting myself to the scrutiny of someone who doesn't even know me sounds like torture, but because I know what being single at my age means now.
I am just weeks away from my 25th birthday. And though I am content being single (it took me awhile to get there), I can tell my family and friends want me to find someone and maybe even settle down a little bit. My three sisters are pretty much all dating or in a relationship with someone, even my parents have moved on to new relationships. And I am still single.
I think this troubles them the same way that it used to get to me. But before 2008 ended, I cleaned all of the skeletons of my past out of my closet and for the first time in years, I felt super comfortable being single. Now it's to the point where I prefer it. But I think it hurts me to see my family hurt for me because I'm alone.
I just wonder, is there a certain age when people expect you to settle down with someone? And why does it seem so weird when someone wants to focus on their goals, like work and school, instead of focusing on a romantic partner? And how much longer are people going to try and set me up on blind dates?
I figure when the right person comes along, it just happens, that's why I don't sweat it anymore. So I guess I just have to be prepared for more offers for blind dates. Then again, I do love a good personal trainer.....to be continued :)....
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