The Valentine's Day Dash Has Begun
And so it has already begun....that frantic time where singles are crunched to find a Valentine between now and February 14th . I have already heard the incessant rumblings of that rush to meet someone new so they too can get they're candy and bouquet of flowers and prove that they are in fact, desirable.
In case you haven't caught it yet, when it comes to this holiday, I'm a pessimist.
Maybe it's because I have ever only had a Valentine twice in my lifetime...and both times were disasters. Maybe it's because I am traumatized from my sixth grade experience when I asked a guy to be my boyfriend on this very holiday with a Valentine-O-Gram sent to his classroom and he had a classmate meet me and tell me "he said no" (that one stung a little bit.) But honestly, I think it's because I am one of those singles on that crunch.
Now I pride myself on being an independent person, not necessarily wanting or needing a relationship. But it's my belief that Valentine's Day brings out a truth in everyone that not a lot of people want to confront: No one really wants to be alone. On this holiday, that reality is thrust into our faces and we have no choice but to deal with it in some way, whether we are successful in our pursuit of a Valentine or not. And even for the most experienced single, this is, for lack of a better term, a hard pill to swallow.
I have no idea how I feel about this upcoming Valentine's Day. If I do end up with a Valentine, I'd like to keep it low key....maybe just cook dinner together and hang out in front of the old boob tube and talk. That brings me to another warning I want to bring to everyone's attention......if you have a Valentine...are you listening?.....DON'T OVER DO IT!!! (Ladies, this is mostly targeted towards you.) Sometimes, we are so exicted to have a Valentine that we go psycho about everything being perfect (I'm speaking from unfortunate experience.) Just remember, underneath all of that commercialized mumbo jumbo, your celebrating being in the presence of that other person. Don't worry too much about all the details of the day and just go with the flow.
Now this brings me to my warning for men.....if your intended says she doesn't care about Valentine's Day or she says she wants to pretend like it's not even Valentine's Day, she's lying. Truth is, she is expecting you to come up with some creative way to celebrate that day with her, whether it's a special dinner, a poem you wrote for her, or just spilling your guts about how much she means to you. At the very least, us women expect some flowers and a card. If you don't do any of the above, especially after she has done something for you, get used to the dog house being your permanent residence.
As for those single twenty somethings out there who are still card-carrying members of the Lonely Hearts Club, don't fret. There is still plenty of time to ask that guy or girl you've been flirting with on the sly to be your Valentine. And if you don't end up with someone on this holiday, there will be plenty of days in the year where you probably will have someone.
And remember, I'm a member too.
Happy dating all!
In case you haven't caught it yet, when it comes to this holiday, I'm a pessimist.
Maybe it's because I have ever only had a Valentine twice in my lifetime...and both times were disasters. Maybe it's because I am traumatized from my sixth grade experience when I asked a guy to be my boyfriend on this very holiday with a Valentine-O-Gram sent to his classroom and he had a classmate meet me and tell me "he said no" (that one stung a little bit.) But honestly, I think it's because I am one of those singles on that crunch.
Now I pride myself on being an independent person, not necessarily wanting or needing a relationship. But it's my belief that Valentine's Day brings out a truth in everyone that not a lot of people want to confront: No one really wants to be alone. On this holiday, that reality is thrust into our faces and we have no choice but to deal with it in some way, whether we are successful in our pursuit of a Valentine or not. And even for the most experienced single, this is, for lack of a better term, a hard pill to swallow.
I have no idea how I feel about this upcoming Valentine's Day. If I do end up with a Valentine, I'd like to keep it low key....maybe just cook dinner together and hang out in front of the old boob tube and talk. That brings me to another warning I want to bring to everyone's attention......if you have a Valentine...are you listening?.....DON'T OVER DO IT!!! (Ladies, this is mostly targeted towards you.) Sometimes, we are so exicted to have a Valentine that we go psycho about everything being perfect (I'm speaking from unfortunate experience.) Just remember, underneath all of that commercialized mumbo jumbo, your celebrating being in the presence of that other person. Don't worry too much about all the details of the day and just go with the flow.
Now this brings me to my warning for men.....if your intended says she doesn't care about Valentine's Day or she says she wants to pretend like it's not even Valentine's Day, she's lying. Truth is, she is expecting you to come up with some creative way to celebrate that day with her, whether it's a special dinner, a poem you wrote for her, or just spilling your guts about how much she means to you. At the very least, us women expect some flowers and a card. If you don't do any of the above, especially after she has done something for you, get used to the dog house being your permanent residence.
As for those single twenty somethings out there who are still card-carrying members of the Lonely Hearts Club, don't fret. There is still plenty of time to ask that guy or girl you've been flirting with on the sly to be your Valentine. And if you don't end up with someone on this holiday, there will be plenty of days in the year where you probably will have someone.
And remember, I'm a member too.
Happy dating all!
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