Talking in Text Message
So I've been continuing to talk to my ex and I suppose it's going pretty good. There is really just one concrete issue that I have: he only likes to talk over text message.
I can't stand it. I'm a very verbally expressive person-I love to talk. No seriously, I talk faster then I can breathe. So the fact that I'm not having a few conversations with him a week over the phone bugs the hell out of me.
Right now I am cursing the day that text messaging ever became as standard a form of communication as a phone conversation. I blame it on highly advertised texting plans...you know the ones with unlimited texting, the ones practically screaming "PAY FOR ME MONTHLY AND TEXT UNTIL YOUR THUMBS FALL OFF!!!" Damn those cell phone companies.
Really, the text message issue boils down to a much bigger issue...I still don't feel like I can trust him. And the fact that the only time I get to hear his voice is when I see him face to face doesn't help matters. Using this form of communication, I am forced to speculate what's going on when he doesn't immediately return my text message, if it all. I am forced to spread getting information out all through the day instead of accomplishing it in one phone call.
Now men, take note: I am letting you in to the woman's psyche on this one. I can guarantee most women would feel exactly the same way I do. Also, chronically talking through text seems to be a gender specific issue. It seems men do not enjoy talking on the phone with their beloved unless they have something specific to say or their setting up plans.
I think what it comes down to is the fact that constantly conversing through text denies us the ability to do what we do (or at least what we think we do) best: gauge emotion. Without listening to the inflection of your words, we have no idea what you're feeling and those words on our cell phone morph into meaningless statements that we'll continue to look at and over analyze until we decide how you meant what you said and move on. It's one hell of a vicious cycle.
I probably sound like a scene out of the movie "He's Just Not That Into You." But I'm telling you, that's how the female mind works.
Communication was one of my ex and I's problems the last go around. I just hope that communication, along with the trust issues, will eventually improve.
I can't stand it. I'm a very verbally expressive person-I love to talk. No seriously, I talk faster then I can breathe. So the fact that I'm not having a few conversations with him a week over the phone bugs the hell out of me.
Right now I am cursing the day that text messaging ever became as standard a form of communication as a phone conversation. I blame it on highly advertised texting plans...you know the ones with unlimited texting, the ones practically screaming "PAY FOR ME MONTHLY AND TEXT UNTIL YOUR THUMBS FALL OFF!!!" Damn those cell phone companies.
Really, the text message issue boils down to a much bigger issue...I still don't feel like I can trust him. And the fact that the only time I get to hear his voice is when I see him face to face doesn't help matters. Using this form of communication, I am forced to speculate what's going on when he doesn't immediately return my text message, if it all. I am forced to spread getting information out all through the day instead of accomplishing it in one phone call.
Now men, take note: I am letting you in to the woman's psyche on this one. I can guarantee most women would feel exactly the same way I do. Also, chronically talking through text seems to be a gender specific issue. It seems men do not enjoy talking on the phone with their beloved unless they have something specific to say or their setting up plans.
I think what it comes down to is the fact that constantly conversing through text denies us the ability to do what we do (or at least what we think we do) best: gauge emotion. Without listening to the inflection of your words, we have no idea what you're feeling and those words on our cell phone morph into meaningless statements that we'll continue to look at and over analyze until we decide how you meant what you said and move on. It's one hell of a vicious cycle.
I probably sound like a scene out of the movie "He's Just Not That Into You." But I'm telling you, that's how the female mind works.
Communication was one of my ex and I's problems the last go around. I just hope that communication, along with the trust issues, will eventually improve.
1 comments:
Yeah I love talking with texts. It's my Achilles Heel.
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